GIVING UP NEGATIVITY: NEGATIVE THINKING, NEGATIVE SELF-TALK AND NEGATIVE PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE

By Adegbenjo Oreoluwa 

Have you ever wondered how great the world would be if she doesn't have negativity wrapped around her? Have you ever thought about how easy and prosperous your life would be if you give up negativity in every area of your life? 

Most times, we have questions that pop into our brains that make us lose sleep and appetite and then at the end of the day, it affects us health wise. That is why most students tend to have psychological problems and then we hear that they've been hospitalized. Although we tend to attach psychological traumas of students with reading too much for examinations or tests but really, we need to think along the line of having too much negativity around us as students and try to give up negative thinking, negative self-talk and most especially negative people in our lives. 

There is a saying that if you have negative people around you, you tend to think negatively and then finally produce negativity all the time. What I have found out recently is that to produce positivity in one's life, one has to stay clear of negative-thinking people. As students, we need to make sure that we stay clear of negative-thinking friends. If your friend always think along the line of failure all the time, then, you need to run for your life because if you don't, there is high probability that you will end up being influenced and at the end of the day, you end up swimming in the river of Fs'. 

Another way of giving up negativity is to give up negative thoughts. It saddens my heart when I hear stories of students who do not have negative thinking parents nor friends but they single-handedly destroyed their own lives with their own negative thoughts. When you keep having thoughts like: "I don't think I will ever make it in life, I can't pass, e.t.c" then, you need to check yourself. I once met a classmate of mine who after seeing our course outline shouted that she won't pass that course. It was less surprising to me when I heard she didn't pass it because she already talked and thought herself down. 

Negative self-talk on the other hand is just a bit different from negative thoughts. Negative self-talk involves your inner critic telling you that you are not worth any form of positivity in life and you in turn choose to believe that or not. Negative self-talk is the peak of negative thought. When you look into the mirror and keep claiming, saying and repeating bad things about yourself like: "I am such an idiot, I am a nobody, I have never done anything right, I am such a fool e.t.c" then, you are not having negative thoughts but also having the self-talk. 

Negative self-talk also result from hearing too much of negative things about yourself probably from family members or friends. The way out is clear, try as much as possible to have positive minded people around whom you can always talk to and they can encourage you each step of the way. You can also try as much as possible to view yourself positively instead of negatively all the time, after all, you are the architect of your own future and the way you view yourself is how you will present yourself and that's the way people will in turn view an treat you. 

Know this, negative people will dispose your dreams, discredit your imagination, demean your value, belittle you, throw your ideas in the pit, you should stay away from them. Instead, try to think positively, be with positive people. You don't need negative thoughts. They are all lies that want to steal away your joy. Rather than dying in negativity, give it up and stay positive.